 Connecting describes us, it is our true nature. We are meant to feel connected to each other as couples, within families, even in our neighborhoods and communities. When we feel connection, we experience happiness, joy and feeling fulling alive. So why don't we feel wonderful all the time? We experience disconnection from others and we feel separate and sad. We forget the power of feeling connected and we begin to believe the illusion that we are truly alone.
As a certified Safe Conversations facilitator, I begin my workshops with these statements. The reality is that most of us are born into connection with our parents, we feel some kind of disconnect and then we live our lives trying desperate to reconnect. In the 1970s, Dr. Edward Tronick of Harvard University ran a series of experiments called the Still Face Experiments that looked at the power of connection between a parent and child and what happened when it was broken even for a few minutes. Watch a recording of one of the sessions here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0 This video shows us a the distress that a young child goes through when she doesn't feel the connection from her mother for just a short time. However, the reality is that this is a pattern played out over and over in our lives: feeling connected, that connection is disrupted and then, and we strive to reconnect. Think about the last time that you had an argument or misunderstanding with someone in your life. If this person is someone that you really care about, chances are that after the disagreement, you felt stressed. Maybe you were angry at the other person for not seeing things from your point of view. But when we experience this rupture in our relationships, we can feel tension in our body, stress in our neck and shoulders and maybe a knot in our stomach. If the disconnect continues, we may experience sadness, depression, lack of energy, little appetite. Or maybe we push the feelings down by overeating, drinking, binging on Netflix or a computer game. We don't have to get stuck in feeling disconnected from others. One of the reason I love the tool of Safe Conversations is because it teaches us a new way of being in relationships. Learning how to make talking and listening safe is possible and then, so is reconnecting. I'd like to share with you, Rah and her experience with Safe Conversations. https://youtu.be/jAUH05vMZbE Safe Conversations has the power to change the way that you relate to others. I'd like to invite you to join me on Saturday, February 26, 9 am to 1 pm PST to experience it for yourself. During the workshop, you will learn three things:
To learn more and find out how to register: https://www.coachmyrna.org/safe-conversations.html For more on Safe Conversations, visit the website: https://safeconversations.com/ |