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On our journey in life, the most profound thing that we can offer others--partners,
children, parents, friends, co-workers, bosses, neighbors--
is our own healing and
​growth towards being a more loving person.
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Gratitude Jar--Start a New Tradition

12/28/2022

 
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Want an uncomplicated way to boost your mood and be more grateful for what we do have, instead of focusing on what we don't have? Start a gratitude jar! Appreciations are always welcome – and according to researchers, starting a 'happiness jar' could be a terrific way to improve our own wellbeing and the dynamic of our family interactions.

A gratitude jar, also called a happiness jar, is a glass jar in which you put a daily note of gratitude. On a piece of paper, write down one good thing that has happened or one thing you are grateful for that day, fold it up and pop it into the jar. Continue this throughout the year, and when the new year rolls around, you'll have plenty of wonderful memories to reflect on.

You can do this individually, but it could also make great family project. All you need is the jar, some small squares of paper or post-its and a pen. If you have young children, it may be too long to wait an entire year to read the memories. Do it at the beginning of each month and start over for the new month. Or just reach into the jar and draw one or more to read on a day when nothing is going right. These precious memories would probably be forgotten if you didn't take the time to write them down.

Happiness jars were a project first introduced in 2007 by Elizabeth Gilbert, author of "Eat, Pray, Love." Since then, many people around the world have used it as a simple reminder of the joys in the everyday — whether it's a nice meal, good weather, your train being on time or a good night's sleep. Watch this short video for inspiration and an explanation about the value of the jar.  www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1486409691378241

This may seem like a simple act, but the process has been promoted by doctors. Dr. Daniel Fryer, psychotherapist, and author, says, “On New Year's Eve, I recommend they get a bell jar and throughout the year every time something nice happens they write it on a post-it note. Then, in the January of the next year, they pull out a post-it note every day and remind themselves of the nice things that happened over the year – and that sails you through what is supposed to be the most depressing month of the year."

"Make it a habit to be grateful for the smallest details in life. These small details are so numerous that you can spend as much time as you want in a state of gratitude. This gratitude opens to even more of abundance." ~ Ralph S. Marston







You Are Their Favorite Gift

12/1/2022

 
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I don't remember what presents I received when I was five, eight or fifteen. I do remember our family tradition of each child taking a photo with their gifts after we finished opening them. I  remember the train ride one December across the country to spend Christmas with aunts, uncles & cousins. I remember evening adventures to drive through specific neighborhoods and marvel at sparking holiday decorations. I remember the boxes of chocolates that we received each Christmas from my grandparents (mother's parents)--my sisters and I would use toothpicks to poke the bottom in order to avoid the liquid jelly fillings that we didn't like. 

I'd like to reshare a post that I have used before. It isn't mine--the author is an unknown teacher. As a former teacher, parent and now grandparent, I definitely resonate with the message of paying attention to the memories that we create this holiday season.

Dear Parents & Grandparents,


I know at this time of year the sounds, smells and decorations of Christmas are everywhere.  As a parent, there is pressure to make a perfect, magical experience. You want to create lasting memories and give your children the best gifts possible. Sometimes that means a lot of stress on you to get everything done. You may wonder how you can afford to buy all that their hearts’ desires or how you will possibly have enough time to fit everything in.

I want to tell you a secret. Every January, when your children come back to school, they tell me all about the Christmas holidays. I hear about the day that everyone stayed in their pajamas and watched favorite movies. They tell me about walking together in the freezing cold to get something at McDonalds. They remember driving around looking at the best decorated houses and having hot cocoa afterwards.

I hear about the morning that you didn’t have to go to work and how everyone snuggled together in your bed. Or about the days that they stayed at Grandma’s until you came back from work. They tell me about visiting cousins that they haven’t seen for a long time and how they stayed in a hotel with a pool. Sometimes, I hear about how they visited friends on New Year’s Eve and they got to stay awake until midnight. Or how it snowed and everyone had a huge snowball fight!

Usually they mention their presents, but for them Christmas is about you and your love, time, routines and feeling safe. You are their favorite gift!

Christmas Experiences Make Memories

12/1/2022

 
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Each year, as I unpack ornaments and decorations, I am flooded with many memories of Christmases past. The ones that stand out the most are not the presents I received but the experiences that we had together as a family.

As a child, I remember the annual outing to get a live tree from a family friend in Oregon.  He planted and sold trees on his land and he generously offered our family the opportunity to cut our own tree for free from one of the second-growths that sprouted up from the stump.

One year, my three siblings and I accompanied my dad on a damp Saturday morning.  As my dad tells the story, finding a suitable tree and sawing it down was not the biggest challenge.  As we made our way back to the car along the muddy path, my brother Eric who was three, was having a difficult time keeping up.  My dad, pulling the tree with one hand, grabbed my brother around the middle and lifted him up. Unfortunately, his boots remained stuck in the mud. For me, the highlight of the adventure was the retelling of the story to my mother back at home—how my dad had gotten all of us, the tree and even the boots safely back to the car.

Although we lived across the country from both sets of grandparents, we were able to spend some Christmases together with them.  I remember the opportunities to spend time talking with them, the annual jigsaw puzzles, getting reacquainted with cousins, and eating the cookies and special Christmas treats.

One Christmas, we were in Plevna, Indiana with my paternal grandfather.  My grandmother had been gone for several years and I am sure that it was a source of great happiness to have several of his children and their families spend the holidays together.  On Christmas Eve, all of us cousins decided to bundle up and go caroling in the small town. I remember having a feeling of joy sharing carols with my grandfather’s neighbors who we had never met before.  My dad reminded me that this was special because it was the last Christmas that my grandfather alive. I am glad that I helped to make it memorable.

The Christmas with my own children that stands out is the one we spent in Puerto Rico.  The trip was to celebrate my parents’ sixty wedding anniversary which was in June. But December was when everyone was available. Renting a small villa with separate rooms for each family, we cooked meals in the outdoor kitchen and enjoyed the sounds of the tree frogs and tropical birds.  We had our Christmas meal on a rooftop patio enjoying an incredible sunset. My Christmas wish that year was fulfilled as my children had the opportunity to spend time with and reconnect to their grandparents as young adults.
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​What memories will you be creating this holiday season? It may not be possible to cut down a tree yourself. But what can you do to make selecting and decorating the tree a family tradition? Do you recognize and celebrate more than one holiday--Hanukkah or Kwanzaa? How can you bring these traditions together to create new memories? There are a number of wonderful books to read with your children about the background of these holidays. Perhaps your family or grandparents live far away--who can your family invite to share a meal that also is missing family? The possibilities are endless but it takes intention to plan experiences that create new memories.

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